You can receive privileges for the same things that get you oppressed.

impromptuonedykedanceparty:

Way too many people acting like the above isn’t true.

When a straight woman has sex, she is privileged from her straightness, due to heteronormativity - and also slut-shamed for it.

When I go out in the world as a butch-y woman, I am marginalized for that gender presentation - and also receive privileges due to androcentrism, the belief that masculinity is better than femininity and that masculine people are more important / superior to feminine people.

Bi/pan/multi/queer/fluid people, when in F/M relationships, receive many aspects of straight privilege for it, but also experience erasure of their attractions, lives, and experiences by those trying to classify them as straight and box them into a straight narrative.

And yes, as a sexual queer person, I’m actively oppressed for desiring queer sex *while* being privileged for desiring sex at all.

Privilege and oppression are complicated. I haven’t even touched on race or ability or class or colonialism or many, many other things! There are all sorts of complicated ways that kyriarchy privileges and marginalizes people, and they aren’t a simple hierarchy of oppressions. They’re nonlinear, often contradictory, and labyrinthine.

I reblogged this quote earlier but it bears repeating:

“Privilege is: About how society accommodates you. It’s about advantages you have that you think are normal. It’s about you being normal, and others being the deviation from normal. It’s about fate dealing from the bottom of the deck on your behalf.”

 - A Primer on Privilege

Lots of things about us are considered ‘normal’ by some aspect of kyriarchy and ‘deviant’ by another. It is painfully, painfully obvious that, e.g. “having queer sexual attractions/desires” is viewed as a deviation from normal, and “not having any sexual attractions/desires” is also viewed as a deviation from “normal.” No, they’re not oppressed in the same ways (and the privileges to the ‘normal’ group in each case are also very different), and the intersection of those is complicated as hell. But loudly shouting things like ‘I’m more oppressed than you, so your oppression doesn’t exist!’ is arrant privilege-denying bullshit.